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missblyss | lemme know! |
intuitivefish | Sure whats your q? |
missblyss | hey girl just trying to check in and see what is the current energetic situation with my daughter's bio dad. i'm frustrated as he is now trying to get video calls with my daughter 7 nights per week! all of this effort after his abandoning her until she was nearly 4.. but anyways, just curious if you see this continuing or if u think he is ever going to stop? i am also wondering if u think he is still on drugs or involved in illegal things/ violence/ gangs. what is your question
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intuitivefish | Mine Just what do you get how things will go with D in Jan? Also I might get vacation time 27th Dec through 14th Jan if I will be spending any time with him in that time? |
missblyss | quote: Originally posted by intuitivefish: MineJust what do you get how things will go with D in Jan? Also I might get vacation time 27th Dec through 14th Jan if I will be spending any time with him in that time?
ok for d in jan... i actually feel a positive progression of things in the new year. it feels like for him the new year brings this feeling of him focusing more on the future, more on what he wants in life and what he wants his life to look like. i do feel him wanting to get to know you and be more active in doing things with you so that he can see where it goes.. basically it feels like he really want to explore things and see if it has the potential to be something bigger... and it is bc the new year has got him thinking of the future youll definitely be in communication especially past the holidays and i do think there is a really high chance that the two of you will hangout. be sure to let us know how it ends up going! |
intuitivefish | First if he is on drugs/illegal.. I dont feel heavy substances around him only socially sometimes but nothing heavy and I dont feel it goes on all the time just sometimes when he has a need to destress. On illegal I get he doesnt, he still talks to people he used to do that but I feel like he does not participate in activies he is trying to clean his act up as he does feel its time to be a dad and not get in trouble.He will pause it but not stop I feel like I said above that he is trying to be present in her life. I feel like he will try to be some kind of present figure in her life but I do feel his efforts will also die down a little. Its like starts full speed ahead and then slows down. I also feel like he talked to someone who showed him by example the importance of being there for your child so I feel like he wants to make the effort but later it slows down a little due to other circumstances. |
intuitivefish | Thank you will let you know |
missblyss | thanks girl! do let me know! is it ok if i ask another? do you feel that he is going to try to mess with me? is he trying to gain control back of our daughter or does he just genuinely want to see her? i get nervous bc i want to homeschool her and he wants to have her go to strict school and we basically disagree on everything and i hope to retain all decision making power |
intuitivefish | Ok. Mine is - will something more develop with me and D or will some other girl snatch him up?( yep my insecurities bc of stupid past with A) |
missblyss | quote: Originally posted by intuitivefish: Ok. Mine is - will something more develop with me and D or will some other girl snatch him up?( yep my insecurities bc of stupid past with A)
so i don't see another girl snatching him, but i do feel the presence of a close female friend it doesnt feel like anything that would ever turn romantic, but just so u know. feels like a girl he has known and is close with but in a totally platonic way, so if u hear about her don't get jealous bc it is truly just a friend. i don't want to say yes for sure you will be together bc that is up to you both, but i will say that i do feel him being totally open to seeing where things go with you. i feel that as long as you remain just as open as he is to seeing where things go, he will want to see where things go too. there is definitely interest there on his part and a desire to get to know you better and he feels very open to things progressing |
intuitivefish | I do get that some points of decisions might go through a lawyer or someone neutral. But I dont feel it is him trying to be mean but being unable to reach a decision although he knows he is limited in power. To me it does feel like he is trying to be genuine and cating and that he is trying to not mix up his emotions towards you with emotions towards your daughter so I feel like he is trying to seperate these which was the mistake he was doing before. I dont feel he will try to spite you but will want to have his decisipons as a father put in the equasion as well. So he is trying to do things right but he is still stubborn but trying to be better with her |
intuitivefish | Thanks . Yeah I think thats the girl he mentioned once. |
missblyss | hey fishy how have things been with this dude? |
intuitivefish | Hey you! Hows the baby ? how are things going?well with me.. Me and D finally met up. It was really nice, he is a sweet guy and is very caring towards me. did you have questions? |